Social Groups: More About Them! | AviLicious Magazine

Posted on 01-09-2008

Filed Under (Social Things) by Babiibunnie

Do many of you go to school, work, or maybe just walk around somewhere and think, “I wonder what exactly a preppy girl is . . .?” or “What are nerds actually like?”? Here, for you, I have definitions of some well-known social groups so that you will never have to wonder again!

Source: Urban Dictionary

AviLicious Model iRedeem. Preppy:
A true preppy is someone who:
Wears, but is not limited to, Polo, Lilly, Brooks Brothers, Lacoste, LL Bean (i.e. duck boots), ribbon belts, prints (i.e. cords with embroidered whales, palm trees, etc.), sweaters tied around the neck, collars always popped, and looks neat and put together. Hair ribbons or ribbon headbands, pearls, and other classic jewelry pull the look together. Preppies are partial to monogrammed and engraved items (i.e. tote bags, oxford shirts, jewelry, money clips, etc.). Colors are always bright (favorites include pink and lime green). Preppies may not always match exactly, but they are always coordinated. Hats are worn (i.e. polo player, Lacoste, Brooks Brothers), but they are unique - not designs you would see in the mainstream or mall.

Preppies often attend prep schools (i.e. Middlesex School, Governor Dummer Academy, and Belmont Hill) followed by New England private colleges.

They are confident and unafraid to express their own styles and be daring in their fashions. Preppies sometimes vacation on Nantucket, Martha’s Vineyard, Delray Beach, and on the coast of Maine. These vacation locales are places their families have been going to for years and have histories there.
It is a common misconception that preppies are snobs. Many people view them as unapproachable and, in result, mislabel them. Preppies are not always as rich as people may think they are, but they are often well off. They buy into classics rather than trends, and don’t change their lifestyles with fads.
Preppies tend to have bizarre connections with other preppies they meet, and are always finding mutual friends, family and people that run in the same circles.

Preppies don’t:
* Wear tight, skin exposing clothing (i.e. fitted Abercrombie sexual t-shirts with tight flared jeans).
* Limit themselves to mall shopping and chain stores. They gravitate towards long-established classic stores and boutiques unique to quaint New England towns.
* Wear heavy makeup and endless hair products. The phrase “less is more” is a preppy creed.
* Glue purses to their arms, especially when going to school. Lip gloss and (if need be) wallets are thrown into tote bags along with books.

Ugly:

1. A word that 5-year-old boys call pretty girls because they are immature and don’t know how to express their feelings for a girl, so they tease them instead.

2. A word that sometimes people genuinely use when someone is really, truly, honestly ugly. Fairly rare, though.

3. Used by popular guys in school, usually in reference to an unpopular or weird girl, even if she isn’t ugly in the least bit.

Jock:
To clear things up, there is a major difference between a jock and an athlete. Jocks tend to abuse their popularity, while the athletes don’t really mind who they talk to or hang out with.

Gay:
Originally meant joyful, vibrant, and full of life.

Now it’s used by ignorant (and often prejudiced) people to describe something that they don’t like. It’s especially common among teenage boys who use it to look cool or to hide their insecurity about gay people.

Gay is now slang for a homosexual person, that is, someone who is attracted romantically and sexually to people of their own sex.

Gay men are known as gays, while gay women are known as lesbians. Some bisexuals also identify as gay.

Up to 1 in every 10 adults is predominantly gay; everybody is somewhere in between the two extremes of heterosexual and homosexual.

Gay is sometimes, but not always:
-Living with AIDS.
-Living a promiscuous life.
-Acting very much like the opposite gender (very masculine women and very feminine men: when people think of these stereotypes, they’re usually thinking about transsexual or transgender people instead. Most of these people are straight and just happen to identify as the opposite gender.)
-All about sex.

Being gay is not an illness nor a perversion; it’s a totally normal variation of human sexuality and it’s been around for countless ages, not to mention existing in many different species of animals. In fact, heterosexuals could learn some things from gays, bisexuals, transgenders, pansexuals, asexuals, and other “queer” people if only they would put their prejudices aside and look at them as people.

Gay men don’t take any women from the straight men looking for a lady, and vice versa with lesbians and straight women. Lesbians (and sometimes gay men) provide something exciting for the straight men and women to watch . . . same-sex kisses.

Gays are perfectly normal people. Their only “difference” is that they (romantically) love somebody of their own sex. Aside from the cruel prejudices that they face because of who they love, they usually are able to live wonderfully full, happy lives.

Often gays have reclaimed old derogatory terms for themselves as terms of affection: fag and queen for the men, dyke for the women, queer for anyone from the non-heterosexual community, etc. Although, they can still be used as insults by the bigoted.

Gays sometimes do imitate heterosexual gender roles (butch and femme) in their marriages (in every other way if not legal), but most do not; plenty of femmes pair up with other femmes, butches with other butches, androgyny and so forth. It’s often remarkable how much their unions resemble heterosexual unions.

A man can be highly flamboyant and act and dress quite feminine, but sleeping with men is the last thing on his mind. Likewise, a man can be incredibly butch and swaggering, and yet he likes to sleep with men; being gay has to do with who you are attracted to sexually, not how masculine or how feminine you are.

Gay is not all about sex. Most gays are happy doing a lot of other things besides just having sex. And most gays loathe the idea of molesting a child, contrary to the beliefs of ignorant people. (Almost all pedophiles are heterosexual.)

And with marriage ending in so many divorces, those in favor of marriage should be happy that there are people who want to get married and are willing to fight for that right. Gays have had to fight so much for the basic rights that straights take for granted.

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Spoiled:
One who is given anything and everything they want.

Nerd:
A person who gains pleasure from amassing large quantities of knowledge about subjects often too detailed or complicated for most other people to be bothered with.

Often mistaken for geeks, who aspire to become nerds, yet lack the intelligence, and end up giving nerds a bad name due to their poor social skills.

Non-nerds are often scared of nerds due to their detailed knowledge and, therefore, seemingly high levels of intelligence - and subsequently degenerate them as much as possible as often as possible.

Nerds exist covertly within the fabric of society, often choosing to “nerd it up” in private or in the company of fellow nerds. It is for this reason they are feared the most - unlike geeks, who are easily identified, nerds can only be found out when casual conversation reaches a subject that they like “nerding.”

Punk:
The widespread basic understanding/definition of “punk” includes a basic wanting to be different.

A real punk will never stereotype themselves. To put this in perspective, have you ever heard a cheerleader say, “Oh my God, I am so prep. That girl over there dressed in all pink is such a wannabe poser.”? I doubt it. If you have, I pity you, greatly, for even knowing of such a person. When someone says, “Oh my God, look at that poser!” does that honestly make them “punk” and therefore “cool”?

The name “punk” in part came from punk rock: a form of hard-driving rock ‘n’ roll, originating in the 1970’s, characterized by harsh lyrics attacking conventional society and popular culture, and often expressing alienation and anger. Rock music with deliberately offensive lyrics expressing anger and social alienation; in part a reaction against progressive rock (there are other definitions of this on this site way better than this one). This is what started the whole thing. But punk rock goes against stereotyping (that would be the conventional society and popular culture), and calling oneself “punk” is just that.

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There are real punks and posers. They are two separate categories. The above just proves that there are a lot more posers than there appear to be.

First of all real punks:
Are technically punk rockers.
A performer or follower of punk rock music.
However, in today’s hypo-heterogeneous music gene pool, there is hardly any real, defined punk music. It’s always “punk rock,” “punk pop,” etc. They all count. Punk (as defined above) is a type of music defined by lyrics and attitude.

This means that punk rockers are listeners of punk music with punk music categorized by the message the band is sending.

This is how we get posers.

Punks tend to dress a little crazy (to “normal” people; the rest just think blue hair is cool), but it never really became a “fashion” until certain celebrities started calling it that (i.e. Avril Lavigne).

Yes, sadly, all those old-school (before it became popular) punks were screwed over by, you guessed it, popular culture. Suddenly it became “cool” to be punk; to dress differently, and do crazy things with one’s hair and makeup.

This is not to say that everyone who does this, even younger people (and by younger I’m referring to people who couldn’t possibly have been punk rockers before, as in they weren’t born in the 1970’s), are posers. You are a punk rocker if you listen to punk music. It doesn’t matter what you dress like.

How you dress has nothing to do with being punk. It means that either: A) you honestly like the clothing style that has been termed “punk” and you wear it because of that or, B) you’re a poser trying to be cool and you think your clothes will do that for you (making you no better than preps who obsess with clothes to become popular and think that other people’s clothing defines them, just like it will define you as “punk” and “cool”).

Punks, by definition, both above and socially don’t want to be cool. They want to be themselves and rebel against anything they feel is suppressing them.

What I really want people to see is that by calling yourself a punk, how much of a loser that makes you look. Claiming to be punk and calling other people posers does not mean you are a poser; I never said that. But if you think that it makes you “cool” to be punk and call other people posers, than you yourself are a poser. Realize that punk is not a fashion style, and clothing means nothing whatsoever. Anyone who bases any judgment because of what someone is wearing and labels them from that is either a poser themselves or just a rude and ignorant person.