Relationship Advice | AviLicious Magazine

Posted on 01-09-2008

Filed Under (Serious Things, Tips & Advice) by Babiibunnie

By: BabiiBunnie

Title: Long distance problem
Source: Kaliena

Her Question/Problem:
Okay, well my boyfriend and I are kind of in a long distance thing at the moment, and he’s getting a little insecure/worried that I’m going to stop liking him or find someone better than him (though that’ll never happen). How do I help him get over the insecurities? I’ve tried telling him that he’s the only one I care about, but he doesn’t really take any notice of it.

My Answer:

Well, many long distance relationships are “iffy.” There can be a lot of trust issues that come along with them, and at times both of you can find yourselves asking these same questions: “What’s he/she doing now?”, “What if he’s/she’s talking to another girl/boy?”, “What if he/she likes another girl/boy?” etc. You just need to show him that you are loyal, and will never go behind his back and cheat. Try talking to him about what you did during the day, and tell him he was on your mind all day and that you missed him! Call him just to say ”good morning” or “good night.” Little things can always make the biggest changes.
Good luck!

AviLicious Model Ellonway.

Title: Confused???
Source: akuiper321

Her Question/Problem:
Okay, so I have a situation with an ex-boyfriend and myself. We dated back in 2006 for about seven months and broke up. I was actually going to move out of state with him and things fell through. He now lives about four hours away from me. He comes down every other weekend to see his kids and will always call me and come over so our kids can play together. About a month ago he invited my kids and me to his house for the weekend. We went and it was great! It was just like old times. About three weeks after that I told him that I was still in love with him and wanted to get back together. He told me he felt the same, but is not good with expressing his feelings, so that’s why he was just playing dumb all these months (because he didn’t want to get rejected or whatnot). He said he wanted to get back together, but it was hard now that he lives so far away. We agreed that eventually he would move back in with us. I was so happy and relieved that we finally got our feelings out in the open. But now there’s a problem . . . he won’t talk to me! He won’t return my texts, emails, or Myspace messages. And no, I have not been bombarding him with all this. I’ve tried to talk to him three or four times in two weeks. I just don’t understand what’s going on! Was he lying about his feelings? What’s the deal? Why won’t he talk to me! Please help. I’m lost.

My Answer:
Honestly, guys are not so easy to read. In your case you thought everything was coming back like a dream come true. And suddenly he’s gone. This has happened to me but not as far as “ignoring.” My ex and I were together and he said we were meant to be together and that he really liked me. But then a week goes by and I only talked to him once; he never returned my phone calls, and whenever I tried calling him, he wouldn’t be home. The only time I was able to talk to him was on a Saturday for about ten minutes.
There could be a lot of things that may have come up. He might be confused about or afraid of what could happen between you both. Maybe he is afraid of commitment. He also could have gotten really busy and just hasn’t had enough time to pick up the phone and call/text you back. Or, maybe he lost his phone? There are many possibilities. Just give it time and maybe he will come back. If not, you should try to think about him less and worry about yourself and your kids. They need you more than anything!
Good Luck!

Title: Long Distance
Source: sk8ergirl1031

AviLicious Model Ellonway.

Her Question/Problem:
1.) I have a boyfriend who lives in another state, and I haven’t met him in real life yet. Anyway, his birthday’s coming up . . . and what can you do for a long-distance special birthday when you don’t know the person’s address? (And no, I can’t find out his address due to . . . complications, lol). I’ve been trying to brainstorm, but haven’t come up with any great ideas so far.

2.) My boyfriend has this girl who’s stalking him and is convinced she’s going to make him love her. He doesn’t like her, but I wish there was something I could do to help. She’s a dangerous person who’s tried to kill him before, and I’m stuck here hoping nothing goes wrong. Is there anything I can do? And what about him? How can he finally make her understand that he has a girlfriend already, and he doesn’t like her?

My Answer:
1.) It’s very hard to do something special for someone on their birthday. You could try sending him an e-card to his email, with an extra special message in it! You can wish him a happy birthday millions of times throughout the day! But there really isn’t much you can do. Sorry for the lack of help!
2.) I have a neighbor that is eight years old, and this girl is absolutely obsessed with him! I try talk to her and tell her that he is only eight, and to grow up and live her life before she becomes tangled in relationships. This girl doesn’t go as far as trying to kill him, but she’s obsessing on how much she loves him when she doesn’t even know what love is. Pretty much what you have to do is let her run her course! She will eventually realize he doesn’t like her. There’s really nothing you can do, because if you go tell her “Oh, he doesn’t like you,” she will just think “Who cares?” and will go on with her life. So there’s really nothing you can do on your part. Maybe talk to his or your parents and tell them about what’s going on and how this girl tried killing him! Because that’s not good. As for him, he should try to tell her to back off a bit because he has a girlfriend, and maybe not associate with her.
Good Luck!

Title: Ex-boyfriend Problems
Source: Marieze

AviLicious Model Ellonway.

Her Question/Problem:
I have this ex-boyfriend that broke up with me a few weeks ago, but I’m still in love with him. I can’t get him out of my mind. I’ve told him so many times that I still love him, want him back, and would do anything for him, but he doesn’t seem to care anymore. He said we can still be friends, and that somewhat works out, but being around him only depresses me because it reminds me how much I love him. Another thing is that when he broke up with me, he did it in the worst possible way: we got into a huge fight and he told me he never loved me and that he still had feelings for his ex. He also said going out with me was a mistake. I was heartbroken. But no matter what I do, I can’t stop loving him because I know how much of an amazing person he can be. He’s said some pretty terrible things to me and my friends tell me he’s not worth it, but I just can’t seem to let him go. Even as friends, he doesn’t take into consideration that I still love him. He recently told me that he never wants to get into another relationship because he seems to think it only causes problems. He also always tells me how happy he is after we broke up, and it really makes me sad. No matter what I do, I just can’t seem to convince him that not all relationships will end in disaster. For a while I thought we might have a chance together again, but at this point I’m starting to doubt that it will ever happen. Part of me wants to completely leave him, but another part of me can’t stand to be away from him because every hour I am away makes me depressed. I think it’s because I’m scared I won’t be able to love someone like I love him. Any advice?

My Answer:

You should not worry about it too much. It’s only going to bring you down, and the more you try doing stuff for him, the farther away he is going to want to get. You should give him some space and maybe once he realizes you actually are trying to get over him, he will realize “Omg, what am I doing . . . ?” and possibly try to get back together. Theres a quote I go by: “You don’t really know what you got ’til it’s gone.” And I honestly believe it. Because every time I move on with a guy that dumps me, he always sneaks back in and tries to get back together. But you can’t always give in to him; make him wait! Let him prove to you he’s worth it!
Good Luck!